How to Find Happines

 

In the pursuit of happiness, Kim Strobel’s wisdom from her new book, Teach Happy, illuminates a truth often overlooked: we deserve a life that radiates joy, both professionally and personally. Far from feeling invisible, we deserve to enjoy the brilliance of a life that brings us fulfillment each day.

Strobel dismantles the common notion of linking happiness to specific achievements. Instead, she reveals that happiness isn't the result of reaching a goal but rather what happens first. It's a mindset or a choice that frames our entire existence.

But is happiness truly a choice? Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, in a recent conversation on the Mel Robbins podcast, unveils the elusive nature of happiness. Drawing an analogy to staring directly at the sun, he suggests that chasing happiness directly often leads to frustration. Instead, like using eclipse glasses to glimpse the sun's brilliance, happiness reveals itself indirectly through the things that bring us joy and the people who uplift our spirits.

In a world inundated with constant noise and negativity, safeguarding our peace becomes critical. While platforms like social media offer avenues for connection and learning, they can also drown us in a sea of turmoil. Selectivity becomes our shield, allowing us to focus on the beauty of life unfolding before us.

Ray Bradbury’s masterpiece, Fahrenheit 451, poses a profound question through Clarisse McClellan: “Are you happy?” It's a question that transcends daily emotions, inviting us to explore happiness as a continuum rather than a destination.

Embracing happiness also entails finding contentment in the present moment, owning our narratives, and nurturing ourselves. It's a conscious choice, a commitment to cultivate joy amidst life's inevitable challenges.

Happiness is about being present, as I recently heard the perfect analogy: consider your two favorite songs. If you listen to them one at a time, it's great. But if you listen to them both at the same time, it's not as good. Similarly, being present with one group or task allows us to fully experience and appreciate each moment, amplifying the richness of life.

Seeking opportunities to savor moments of gratitude each day becomes a practice that makes a significant impact and frames life. By acknowledging and appreciating the blessings in our lives, we infuse each moment with meaning and purpose. Whether it's relishing the warmth of a morning cup of coffee or expressing gratitude for the support of loved ones, these small acts of mindfulness illuminate the path to happiness. Reflecting on personal growth, it becomes evident that happiness isn't a fixed state but a dynamic journey. 

As we navigate this journey of life, we realize that our experiences form a beautiful story, much like an album with its carefully chosen tracks. And just as Taylor Swift's "Tortured Poets" album urges us to write out our pain to move forward, we too can choose the songs that define our narrative, shaping our existence.